Wedding Planning Advice for Busy Working Brides
Managing repercussions of anxiety & stress when 'doing it all'
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Every woman planning a wedding has this little war happening inside of her mind. It’s kind of like watching that Disney movie Inside Out… On one hand, you have Joy and you are so excited that he FINALLY proposed… you know you were waiting. Another hand you have anxiety over the unknown of wedding planning, I mean why wouldn’t you?
Then you have anger. This little guy kicks in when you finally get things into tandem between joy and anxiety, your plans seem perfect you’re ready to move forward with something then BAM. Someone in the family or friend zone hates it, or relatively, passively acts as they hate it.
Unfortunately, this is a struggle that happens to us all. The good thing is there is something that you can do about the way you feel about the situation. In this post, we are going to talk about the 3 things you need to manage this mindset
Have Confidence In Yourself
First of all, no bride OR wedding professional is born with the ability to plan a wedding. All of us start from the exact same place in time with similar experiences and a vastly different view on the world. They say no two people are alike, yet it’s fascinating to me that the person that is often times the perfect fit is the polar opposite in so many ways.
So how do you become confident in your wedding plans when you are starting from scratch, with zero help (let’s be real) and little to no time to devote to learning an industry?
Confidence comes from feeling like yourself and not conforming to somebody else’s mold. Simply look to your own unique personality composition and that of your relationship then work out that inspiration board you’ve been playing with on Pinterest.
Some of the most successful people in the world have created incredible things despite what others had to say.
Take Walt Disney for example. When he first developed his idea for his creation he went to 100 people to get help with creating it. Every single investor turned him away so he decided to do it on his own, building today’s 90-year-old The Walt Disney Company with location all over the world.
Confidence in yourself comes from having a level of unwavering trust in yourself and knowing that no matter what, you are doing what’s right.
We have this amazing thing called a subconscious mind that acts as out intuition during the day, and helps us reset and recharge at night. This level of your mind knows exactly what you should do and it tells you through whispers.
When someone makes an unsolicited suggestion about your wedding, don’t take it to heart. I know this is easier said than done, but doing so will demonstrate that A you heard them and B you know what you want. People who feel the need to impose opinions are simply doing so out of their own retaliation to something else, only you are getting the end of the stick.
Make Time For Relaxation Everyday
With our schedules getting busier and busier every day, it’s really easy to get caught up in the chaos and forget or sometimes neglect our own needs. Just like work, family, and relationships, wedding planning demands a lot of your thought process without dropping anything else.
Carve out time for your relationship in the daily planner, and just the same, carve out time for you. When my schedule starts to get a bit overwhelming, I like to get up in the morning and journal for a while just to get all of those thoughts and ideas out of my head. Just because something is in your head, doesn’t mean you need to hold tight to those thoughts and ideas all day. Journaling lets you get it all out on paper to clear your mind and start fresh.
I also like to listen to meditation music, on YouTube to help me stay motivated, focused on the task at hand and out of the manusha of the ideas floating around my mind. Since it takes our minds an average of 25 minutes to refocus once our attention has broken from a task, I like to reset by having a quick 5-minute Meditation Session using my app Head Space. Going about your day with a calm and clear mind has an impact on how you feel, the thoughts you think, the way you speak and your productivity levels.
Build A True Support System To Cheer You On
I use to watch ‘Say Yes To The Dress’… until my tv was taken over by Mickey Mouse that is. While I adored seeing all of the exquisite wedding dresses that Kleinfeld Bridal had in store, I couldn’t stand to see the bride’s being brought to tears by their “support” system. You know what I mean, you’ve seen it too!
Planning your wedding day requires you to wear many hats at once doing a job you’ve never done.
Hiring, managing & paying a Team
Coordinating design, scheduling details & creating floor plans.
Playing human resources for your bridal party, wedding guests & family.
Really this list goes on and on.
The natural reaction to this level of uncertainty and stress is to talk it over with those you are close to, who are all too often uninterested. My favorite solution for this is by far the internet. Connecting with women from around the world. Seeing others asking questions exactly like the ones you’ve been wondering and opening your mind to people who actually know how to help you.
At the end of the day, you simply need some well deserved time for yourself and the relationship that blooming. Planning your wedding is important with such a small window of time, but I promise you, with the right tools and strategies, doing so is stress-free.
What was your biggest key takeaway from this blog post and how will you change your current planning strategy to live a more balanced life? Let me know in the comments below and be sure to pop on over to Twitter and Instagram @EmilyJanick and continue the conversation!
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Author: Emily Janick
Date Published: February 11, 2019
Just an average northern Michigan girl chasing some really big dreams helping other women live the happiest day in their life. Working with brides both online & in person using our free Inner Circle email club, 1:1 Bridal Coaching (coach / help you through it), & full-service wedding planning (do it for you).